Here are three ways you may be sabotaging your dreams:
1. You are waiting to feel “special”- Here’s the deal, the people who are out there living their dreams are special. Yep,that’s right. They were born with this super fantabulous specialness chip, and you simply didn’t get. Sorry. You’re out of luck.
How ridiculous does that sound?
When we look at the people who we admire; the people who are using their unique gifts in a way that fills them up and makes them shine from the inside out, we aren’t looking at some kind of alien from the Planet of Specialness of which we don’t belong. Those people don’t have anything you don’t have —except maybe the realization that they didn’t have to be “special” before they started pursuing their dreams.
Take the pressure off of yourself to be “special” and allow the flawed, imperfect, brilliant, unique, authentic you to put one foot in front of the other.
2. You think you’re “lazy”– A mentor of mine once told me, “I don’t believe in lazy”. She went on to explain her belief that there is always something deeper behind a person’s laziness— Maybe it’s a fear of failure. Perhaps it’s disbelief that you really can be happy; or that you deserve to be. Or, maybe, you have no tolerance for the discomfort and hard work that comes with leaving your comfort zone. The next time you blame your “laziness” for not pursuing your dreams, I encourage you to look deeper. Examine it.
Don’t let yourself believe in lazy.
3. You don’t want to be an acorn– You’ve probably heard the analogy about how every beautiful oak tree once had to start out as an acorn. But, I mean, who the heck wants to be an acorn?! We want to be beautiful, big, strong oak trees, darnit!
I am going to take this opportunity to practice what I preach about vulnerability and share something with you—I would love, loooove, loooooove to be sitting on a couch across from Ellen someday (yes, as in DeGeneres). You know, just us girls. Chatting like old pals about spreading kindness, empowering women…saving the world…yada, yada, yada. Whoa! That’s some serious Oak Tree dreamin’, right? Sure, I’ll admit it. I have some big dreams. But, if I put that kind of pressure to succeed on every word I write or speak,I’d be paralyzed.
You have to be willing to be an acorn.
Tonight, being an acorn means sitting home on a Saturday night to write this post. Other days, being an acorn means submitting my writing to a publication and having it rejected. And, some days, this little acorn gets watered and fed by hearing that my words helped someone in some way.
It’s okay to have big Oak Tree dreams. But, you can’t skip being an acorn. And, honestly, you don’t want to because it feels pretty darn good.
So, what is holding you back from pursuing your dreams? I really hope you’ll take the time to search for the answer to this question.
Girl, the world is waiting to receive what you have to offer.
This article was first published in A Better Me Magazine.
Amanda has a Masters degree in Counseling and specializes in helping women feel more empowered in their relationships, career and overall life satisfaction. To inquire about individual coaching sessions, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.